Okay, so I’m back again to blog about something that’s been on my mind. Big shocker. So, whether you like it or not, here come my ramblings.
Have you ever been in a situation where you’re convinced you’re right, but multiple people tell you that you’re wrong? And, even after this, you still believe that they’re wrong, that they don’t understand you? That’s how I’m feeling right now. I apologize in advance for the rather vague nature of this post. I’m really just trying to get my feelings down on paper now.
Without going into too much detail, I have a situation. This situation involves some rather strange, unusual circumstances. I have my opinion on it, and pretty much everyone else on Earth has the opposite opinion. Not even kidding. Even though most people don’t understand the first thing about the situation, they think they know. Don’t even get me started on those people. I do believe I’ve written something on this blog (or at least on Facebook or somewhere) about those people who just think they know me better than I know myself. If you care about reading it, find it.
But now I’m faced with this situation, and I’m brought back to the people (or one person in particular) that think they (or, in this situation he/she) know me better than I know myself. This time, however, it’s a little different. This person (we’ll call them Person A, just so you can try to keep up), whose opinions I do not always respect, has told me I’m wrong and that I’m fooling myself, even if it’s subconsciously. Which I normally wouldn’t listen to, except that someone (Person B) whose opinions I highly respect 99% of the time told me pretty much the same thing, though it was far earlier in the situation and she didn’t know nearly as much about it. If that makes absolutely any sense. I applaud you for following this far. lol
Anyway, when Person A told me that I was fooling myself yesterday, they said that I was just trying not to cause myself pain, and so I was subconsciously fooling myself. I’d been broken so much that I was afraid to face reality. Which I do not believe in the least. But this brings me to the point of this blog post: how can you determine whether you’re fooling yourself or if you’re right? I’ve thought for a long time on this and I have come to the conclusion that I can never know for sure. All I know is that my situation is there and I might as well enjoy it instead of torturing myself about it and feeling even worse when I go for college and the situation will possibly be 500 miles away. I’m a big advocate of living your life while you can, so I’m going to live.
But the big thought I shall leave you with is this: consider all perspectives of a situation. Because, if you don’t, misunderstandings will occur and you will wish that you had thought about your situation a different way. And you should also make sure you’re not being an arrogant jerk. Because I’ve made the mistake before of only seeing things from my point of view, and then I realized how mean I sounded to everyone else. Think about your actions. The biggest thing I’ve learned in the past year is how much words and actions affect other people. Just. Think. And, even if you think someone is delusional, think about where they’re coming from. Attempt empathy. Like I said, Just. Think. It’s not that hard. And it could really help you understand people and, with more understanding, comes friendship and trust. Amazing things happen when you open up your mind.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step,